Breadwinner's Dilemma

We are aware that most of us left our homeland and all the comfort of home with a sky high hope of earning enough living for ourselves and our family. We wanted to give all possible comfort and security like shelter, food, education and security. But what if you happen to have met the man of your dreams and suddenly decided to move to the Philippines so he can start a hassle free life with you and start a family with you. The economic reality knocks you at the same time. Although the cost of living in the Philippines are far more cheaper and economical, you also worry about the earning possibilities that' s far more lower than the western standard and you have a family to take care of.

What will you do?

Aahh, you do have a real dilemma girl. I can imagine being in that position and I sure will have a hard time deciding. I love my family and they are​ the reason that I was willing to sacrifice for them. The same way that I love my man and the Idea of finding living with him for life is a bliss. Not all women are lucky enough to have found Mr. Right. So its like the situation is between a hard ground and a rock.
Loving is a season. We do have a season for everything. You have done some sacrifices and I guess they have prepared for a moment like one day, you will have a life of your own. I guess they have already prepared economically so that when you stop working for them, they'l have the source of livelihood. Or if you think they have not, then perhaps its not yet too late to start saving and start figuring out how to quick start them.

Living for your own happiness is never selfish. As I've said, loving and living has its own phase and season. Your family came as your top priority when you were single.Then you wanted a family of your own, that's another season to consider.

As for me, there's nothing wrong with moving back to the Philippines with your partner. As long as you are both hardworking and determined to look for new opportunities, you will still be definitely successful here. Sometimes, it's not about the place, it's about the people and what their aspirations are. If you will try to keep a positive mindset and good working habits, I am pretty sure you can still be able provide for your family.

If you are in California, talk to the Pinays who are oldtimers there. More likely they will tell you they wanted to go home but they are worried of their financial security in the Philippines. I have a lot of college classmates who settled in America and they say that if given a choice, they want to stay in the Philippines. I'd still say it depends on your values. There are people who easily adapt to the culture of a foreign country and there are those who try hard to cling to their original culture.

As for the expats going back to live a life in your homeland, ask yourself why you want to go home. If it's about the family then go home.

Actually it is my husband who had this plan that we will settle in the Philippines after his retirement. If this it is plan well then it is good for me because I really want to go home and be with my family again. But we will never know and things might change and I am just hoping that it will materialize and that he is really decided and if we had save enough money for the future.