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In the Philippines people do not care about age in relationships so much. It can even be considered good to have an older foreigner as a husband.
In the USA it is different and people do not like it so much.
I really like older man who is responsible and caring and mature. What do you think about it?
I do care about age, I don't want to be dating younger guys. Older men and younger men have so much difference that can either make or break a relationship.
Most younger men are into bar scene and adventurous while older men are settled with so much patience.
I care about age.
In my opinion, it does NOT matter at all. I have known few couples who have significantly large age gaps in between but they managed to be happy and are quiet successful in their marriage. For me, for as long as I am not hurting anyone, I am OK with it. After all, relationship is about 2 people sharing lives.
Age does not matter that much, but of course I wanted to be with some who is mature enough to earn a living and mature enough deal with the reality of life. I've meet quiet a lot of guys who are already on their 30's and yet they still don't know what they wanted. And guys who are in their early 20's but are more brave to carry on with the roles of a mature guys, who are actually thinking more mature and full of plans for the future or actually travelling the path of life with more structured direction. Its a case to case situation. Here is my thoughts on this, maturity is not limited to age alone.
I am not a cradle snatcher. I have no plan to marry a Mama's boy. And I find older guys more secured and patient.
As for me, I really don't mind having an older boyfriend. If you truly love someone, nothing really matters even if it's age gap. As long as your partner is faithful, loving, caring, and respectful, he/she is definitely worth keeping. Just don't mind what other people would say about your relationship. They don't know anything about the both of you anyway.
Age doesn't matter to me anymore. Earlier in my teen years I was very particular that the guy had to be older than me by at least a couple of years. I hated the idea of dating younger men, as I thought, as @Margie says, they would be into bar scenes, and would be wild and have casual flings without any interest in commitment whatsoever. But I had my first heartbreak with a guy who was 3 and a half years my senior. He was responsible, caring, and the one who suggested that we get into a relationship instead of just being "friends". And then he left. Why? Oh he didn't bother to say why. Next thing I hear he had flown off to the US and was living there. The two relationships that I got into after him were all with older men, and all of them resulted in disaster. And then I met this guy, two years my junior, and I've not been happier. Had I known that my initial friendship with him would snowball into something deeper, I'd probably have closed my heart to him, simply out of the aversion I had towards younger men. But thankfully things played out with my interference, and I'm really really happy with life for that. My present boyfriend is not only caring, responsible and really loving, but being closer to my age group or younger for that matter, brings a sort of liveliness into the relationship. I can treat him as a dear friend and not just a partner taking care of me.
I fancy older men, like 10 years older than I am. They are more matured and patient with a woman's childlike attitude. I don't like younger men or in the same age as I am. I don't want to act/look/sound like their mother when it comes to non-romantic matters. Plus, it's awkward to be imagining romantic things with younger men.Quote:
Originally Posted by Roxee
I am 48 and my beautiful Pinay wife is 23. We are very happy and are having a baby next June!
We met on FB in February of 2013 and it started with her saying to me "Your Handsome"..a little time later I said "Your beautiful" and then we didn't talk for awhile. Eventually we started chatting and then moved to Skype. Finally a few onths ago I came to the Philippines and have been here ever since.
I think nowadays most people had this kind of thinking that age doesn't matter already in any kind of relationship. What is important that both partners in the relationship had a good communication in terms of language and understanding with each other. Another factor is the level of acceptance of each other personal character traits and behavior that both partners have to deal with. Physical appearance is not that much considered but the inside beauty of the heart is what most people are looking nowadays before they enter in a relationship. I am a Pinay and is married to a foreigner but we had only a 5 year gap and we are happily living already in their country.
I used to date guys of my age when I was young. My reason is that we are on the same vibrations since we are in the same generation. But I was proven wrong when I met my husband who is 8 years my senior. He readily understood what I want from a guy and it seemed that he was perfect for me. So with age notwithstanding, I succumbed to his charms. And guess what. When I chanced upon my college chum, it was surprising that his husband was the grade school classmate of my husband. Isn't it great to know that I'm not the only in that situation?
I think age is only a number and doesn't matter if you are compatible.
What about a young foreigner with an older local girl? is that something that would be seen socially wrong? I'm just wondering, not that I have a thing for older ladies, is more that I don't think age should matter that much. I have been in both good and bad relationships with younger and older woman and I can say age is a factor for sure when it comes to going to the next level. But to have fun its all good.
Well, it really depends on the ones in the relationship.
And also when you are an adult, say after 30 it doesn't really matters if you are dating a 35 year old, or a 50 or 40 years old. But being under 25 and seeing older men can really ask questions.