What to do when you suspect a third party

[Corzhens]

The most common problem in a relationship is the so called third party. But there are times when the suspicion turns out false. When young girls would be asking me for advice on such problem, the first thing I tell them is to make an instrospection. Inspect yourself, your behavior towards your partner, has it changed? Sometimes we tend to change for the worse when we feel something is wrong but cannot pin him down because we have no concrete evidence. I’d say try to remain your usual self towards your partner but be observant. The best antidote to a third party is a much better relationship with more attention you give to him. Quarreling is not the answer.

[ReadmeByAmy]

You are absolutely right! Sometimes some women always jump in to conclusions at once without having the legit evidence or knowing first the real story. Assessing yourself first if you are not paying too much attention into the relationship might be the reason why you are suspecting that your partner had a third party. That is why do not react too much if you are having this kind of suspicion. It will not not do good but instead find ways how you can put more love and romance into the relationship instead of thinking and acting negative.

[missbookworm]

It's really not right to jump to conclusions immediately, and assume that your partner is cheating on you, specially if it's just your intuition that tells you something is wrong. If you are really worried about your partner having another woman/man, I think the best thing to do is to ask him/her about it, but don't sound like you're accusing him/her. Just tell him/her it's making you feel anxious, and you want to hear an honest answer from him/her.

[Corzhens]

Let me just say it again that confronting your partner is not the right thing to do because that would give him more reason to look elsewhere. To suspect something on him means he may not be his usual behavior towards your relationship. And in case he is prospecting something, giving him more attention might give him the security that he may be needing. Sometimes prospecting for a guy means he is getting insecure, it’s like a defense mechanism on his part. Now for our part, I’d say ladies should be ever understanding of the shortcomings of your man.

[naffi93]

Well third party is not always meaning cheating in my opinion, I mean that you can always talk about your feelings I f you think that he is meeting with somebody else.
On the other hand if he is really, seriously cheating on you, you should right away dump him. If he ever cheated, he also will.